When your man is handsome and clever at the same time, you find it difficult to say no when it comes to pre-marrital sex, right?
In most cases the answer is yes.
But let’s consider what Barnett R. Brickner said about marriage:
“Success in marriage does not come merely just by finding the right mate, but through being the right mate.”
Where does this success begin? If I may ask.
The true success begins from being the right mate and being the right mate too begins from somewhere. It begins from your heart.
But, nowadays, success of being the right mate rather begins from a pre-marrital relationship in which a man proves it’s hard to believe you love him without having pre-marital sex with you, than from the heart. That is, once you sit far on the edge of his bed, you lose him to another girl. This happens often.
In my own case, my girl friend was a church girl and like she felt there’s no how to love me without sleeping with me, which she didn’t like. So she mourned and, thanks, I understood.
Now my fiancée wasn’t alone. But don’t be in a rush to just open it. Beware!
Here’s how not to agree, the deal:
Agree to have a premarrital sex with your boy friend and then disagree!
Don’t Wait till he touches your breast before telling him the truth. Instead, as soon as you see he’s crazy for you, start managing him.
First, say, “Let’s visit my parents.”
After visiting your parents, say, “I need us to see your parents too.”
After visiting his parents too, say, “Let’s go to the hospital and know our health status.”
After knowing your Health status all positive, ask, “Why not doing introduction before having sex?”
After introduction, ask, “Why not just marry?”
After marrying, you win.
If he refuses to do even one of those things you demand, you know he doesn’t love you. Perhaps he thought you were a prostitute or a high libido type, who could easily open. Now he knows the truth so he’ll respect you more than he did before and can even confess on his knees, loving you the more.
However, what’s killing is, some men would agree to disagree after sleeping with you. They’ll run to another Mary. But if you’re a good observer, you’ll know this type of guys before they reach to that point. Just agree only with guys whom you know their history.
There are two types of handsome guys: the one who’s “I must really entre this girl” and the one who’s “If this girl agrees, I’ll marry her even today.”
So you see many girls marry their classmates, working colleagues, neighbors or friends of friends, for they feel It’s safer to marry the one they know.
Go get your own to respect you instead of taking a risk when there’s this idea. A risk should be taken only when there’s no other way or ideas to follow.
Remember Lee Iacocca said: “You can have brilliant ideas, but if you can’t get them across, your ideas won’t get you anywhere.”